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This is by far my most vulnerable blog. I feel the need to write it, yet am scared to death to share it. However a blog isn’t a blog unless you write about something personal and share it with others – even complete strangers! So, here we go!

Many moons ago, I might have laughed at someone who explained to me the connections that I am about to make and share with you between my health and my emotions. At the least, I would I have dismissed it. I encourage you to do neither.

Growing up as an only child, I was often lonely. Sometimes I was lonely in a perfectly acceptable way of being comfortable with being alone. I read a lot. I spent a lot of time in nature. I learned to think deeply and to be very introspective. I wrote poetry. I felt close to “a” God, because there was no one else to be close to and I felt His presence in my life. Sometimes though, I was lonely in a way that hurt. My parents worked a lot. They were young when they had me and worked hard to make sure that I had the material things that I needed. I spent lots of time being part of carpools, at babysitters’, being shuffled between my parents’ work after school and eventually being a “latch key kid” when I was old enough. I knew that my parents loved me. They were caring and kind. And they told me they loved me. But often, I felt – invisible. Life sort of spun around me, while I felt unnoticed.

When I was 12, my parents got divorced. Such a common occurrence now. However, in my community and small Christian private school in the early 80’s –there were only two of us that I knew of with divorced parents. No one knew quite how to handle the situation, so it was largely ignored even though I felt very different from everyone else. My mother saw some very hard times from then until I went to college – and quite honestly until this day. As a consequence, I learned to take care of myself – and her. I learned to not depend on anyone else. I was independent and self-reliant because I needed to be. It felt important to be strong for the both of us.

None of this is a sad, feel sorry for me story. I was and am a happy person. My story is not very different than many, many children today. In fact, while I often felt different and lonely, I was also independent and strong and self-reliant. As I grew older and left for college, I felt driven to succeed because I felt that I needed to – I didn’t have a back-up – I didn’t have a typical mom to return home to.

Fast forward to my own mothering years. My husband and I started dating in high school and we have been very close since then. However, there was a time in our marriage not too long ago where things were hard. Not divorce hard. But, difficult to maneuver. After being successful at a great career for almost ten years, I quit my job to stay home with our three babies. Eventually, we decided to homeschool our children. And my stay at home mother years stretched well beyond toddlerhood. I loved almost every minute of staying home with my kids and homeschooling them. We have very fond memories of learning through living together. And in order for us to be able to do that, my husband devoted himself to his business. He worked incredibly hard and we made a good team – he in the outside world and me in our inside world. I don’t have to explain to any stay at home mom how long those days can be though. And how, no matter how grateful your husband is, it can feel like a thankless job to be with the kids 24/7. I didn’t realize that my sense of self sort of melted into the care and taking of three children. Until it was long gone. I did however notice the accolades for the worldly accomplishments of my husband were handed out freely while my “work” at home went mainly unnoticed by others. It caused a lot of tension between the two of us, as I felt quite “invisible” to the outside world that seemed to spin around me as I devoted myself to our children.

Stay with me here – I promise that I am telling you all of this for a reason – a reason directly related to my health. And possibly yours.

My Grandmother (my dad’s mom) was the one person on earth who made me feel visible when I was younger. Always.  Every single time I saw her. For much of my life, my grandmother lived with my Aunt and Uncle. And they made me feel special too. They had a big gregarious Italian family with four kids, but were always happy to see me. Even in a swirl of way too many kids for their small house, amongst huge batches of spaghetti always on the stove, and the ten plus pairs of shoes left at the side door – I felt seen. And known. It was a gift from her and them to me. Being seen. Feeling important. Feeling – not invisible during those important growing up years. My grandmother passed away when I was 28 and pregnant with our middle child, a daughter that we named Madeline after my most favorite woman in the world. I missed her greatly, but I still had that big Italian family to visit. They say that everyone has a place that feels like “home” to them. When I wanted to “go home” – this is where I went.

Until early in the summer of 2010, when my dear Aunt passed away unexpectedly. I was devastated. To this day, I start to cry thinking about it. I was asked to read a scripture at her funeral and when I woke up that morning I could barely see. And then I could barely walk or ride in the car due to extreme dizziness. And then I was completely unable to move my eyes or feel my face.  And then I was in the hospital being told that the MRI showed lesions on my brain consistent with Multiple Sclerosis. I was thrown into a whirl of tests, hospital stays, steroid IV’s, research, doctor’s appointments and illness. After a year of research and dissatisfaction with the conventional medical system, I landed at an Integrative Physician’s office. She asked all the right medical questions which led to a positive Lyme Disease test, the underlying infection that partly caused the MS. However, she also asked a few questions regarding my emotions, my past, my relationships, my family, what was happening in my life when my symptoms began…my real history. After a few appointments, she asked me about growing up as an only child as well as my feelings as a stay at home mom. She asked me to describe how I felt – and without ever thinking or speaking the word before – I answered, “Invisible.” At which point she noted to me that it was interesting that my first symptom of illness was an inability to “see.” The eyes, they say, are a window into the soul.

Let that sink in, because this whole long blog article has finally made the connection that I set out to make in the beginning. Was it just coincidence that I immediately fell extremely ill the day before we laid to rest the last person on earth who made me feel visible in this world during my childhood – at a time in my life when I felt largely invisible to the mainstream adult world? I don’t think so. In fact, I know it wasn’t. It had never occurred to me before, but at that moment with my Functional Medicine Doctor – I knew that somehow my emotions, heart and soul were intricately connected to my illness. I am not saying that all illness is directly connected to your feelings – obviously some things are genetic, some are literally unexplainable or unavoidable or completely random. And I am in no way suggesting that people are responsible for their own illnesses in a way that they should have or could have prevented them. However, there is an unquestionable relationship between the body and the mind that certainly extends to illness – and wellness.

I have read a lot about the subject since the first time it was brought to my attention. The actual science is called Psychoneuroimmunology and is the study of the interaction between psychological processes and the nervous and immune systems of the human body. It is a fairly new field in terms of Western medicine, though ancient cultures and people around the world have always known that these connections were key in the root of illness and the journey to healing.

Some of the best books I have read on the subject are listed here for you. I encourage you to read just one of them. They will change your world if you are dealing with chronic illness or disease. They changed mine.

-         When the Body Says No, Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection by Gabor Mate, M.D. “This book shows that people do not become ill despite their lives but rather because of their lives. And life includes not only physical factors like diet, physical activity, and the environment, but also the internal milieu of thoughts and unconscious emotions that govern so much of our physiology, through the mechanisms of stress and the unity of the systems that modulate nerves, hormones, immunity, digestion and cardiovascular function.”

-         The Last Best Cure: My Quest to Awaken the Healing Parts of My Brain and Get Back My Body, My Joy and My Life by Donna Jackson Nakazawa “Depending on our state of mind, we trigger a positive floating brain or a negative one. Joy and feelings of well-being can protect our immune systems, and lack of joy and well-being can tax our bodies and deprive our cells….We are all emotional beings living in physical bodies….Scientists are now showing in wide-scale studies that long-ago childhood trauma and adversity play a significant role in how well our immune system functions in adulthood, impacting our lifelong health.”

-          (Currently reading this gem!) Childhood Disrupted: How Your Biography Becomes Your Biology, and How You Can Heal, by Donna Jackson Nakazawa “If you want to know why you’ve been married three times. Or why the ability to control you drinking is slipping away from you. Or why you have so many physical problems that doctors just can’t seem to help you. Or why you feel as if there’s no joy in your life even though you’re “successful.” Read Childhood Disrupted, and you’ll learn that the problems you’ve been grappling with in your adult life have their roots in childhood events that you probably didn’t even consider had any bearing on what you’re dealing with now. Donna Jackson Nakazawa does a thorough and outstanding investigation of exactly how your childhood made you ill and/or joyless, and how you can heal.”

A large part of my journey to wellness has been healthy lifestyle factors and habits. What I eat, how I sleep, supplements I take, toxins I avoid, reducing stress, using essential oils, healthy movement and exercise. However, much of my journey has also been rooted in understanding the innate need to feel visible in this world, how feeling invisible in childhood and even in parts of my adult life affected my health, how to fill that need myself without dependence on others, and how in turn to help others to feel seen and heard too.

If you are struggling with a chronic illness or disease, I encourage you to make connections of your own between your emotions and your health and address these insights in your own journey to wellness. (Originally published at www.dinahdowell.com/Invisible )

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Director and producer Vic Compher’s documentary film, “Portraits of Professional Caregivers: Their Passion. Their Pain,” takes a deeper look at the causes of and treatments for what’s called secondary traumatic stress, a condition commonly suffered by professional caregivers. The film interviews about a dozen caregivers, ranging from social workers to psychologists, professors, nurses, and first responders in the police force and fire departments of Philadelphia, although some shots are of New York City during and after the September 11 attacks. The film’s coproducer is Rodney Whittenberg, who also composed the musical riffs that score some of the scenes.

 

You won’t see actual violence or death in this film but you’ll feel it from looking at the faces of the caregivers as they describe traumatic incidents in their work. In the beginning of the film, the camera focuses briefly on each of half a dozen caregivers. As they speak, the film morphs from color to stark black and white, then freezes as anguish, sorrow, and hopelessness appears on each caregiver’s face. A social worker tells of a child’s death she felt she should have prevented. A neonatal nurse talks of a baby who died in her care. An older family therapist collapses after witnessing a brutal scene with one of her patients. (These and other scenes are depicted with stick figures, which are used to illustrate several violent incidents.)

 

The film goes into the neuroscience of the stress reaction, explaining that our brains actual respond to pain others are experiencing by secreting chemicals that activate our central nervous system. It’s only later that we can appraise and try to distance ourselves from a situation, says Dr. Sandra Bloom, associate professor of public health at Drexel University in Philadelphia.

 

But most caregivers would agree that “empathy is an occupational hazard because you can’t do good work without it,” according to Charles R. Figley, professor at the School of Social Work at Tulane University. The stress leaves “fingerprints on your heart,” he says. And physical symptoms for secondary stress range the gamut from anger, depression, rapid hear rates, fatigue, and insomnia to suicide.

 

Police experience the highest incidence of secondary traumatic stress, and their life span is ten years shorter than the average as a result, says Charles H. Ramsey, commissioner, Philadelphia Police Department. “The police, like the military,” says Professor Figley, “are the worst at admitting psychosocial problems. They need someone within their own ranks to guide them.”

 

The documentary is not all doom and gloom. After the pain, or maybe preceding it, there’s the passion. It’s called compassion satisfaction and it’s what drives people in the caregiving profession. “The work is fulfilling,” says one social worker, “so you don’t stop.”

 

Dr. Bloom says that organizations need to build healthier environments that have mechanisms in place to calm down their caregivers. “We need to allot time to share stories with a facilitator who can process it in a meaningful way.” One scene in the film shows Philadelphia fire emergency responders in what’s called an emotional first aid session letting out their feelings of guilt and sorrow at not being able to save a life.

 

Regular self-care activities – exercise, gardening, meditating, and painting – are ways to distance oneself from the stresses of work. But in the end, most of these caregivers enjoy the challenge of helping others. Says Figali, “It’s a privilege to be working with traumatized people. Compassion satisfaction counterbalances compassion fatigue.”

 

Adds a hospice worker, “It reminds you of what’s important in life. It’s the gift that all these patients give to us.”

 

And this film is a gift to caregivers and to all those who receive their care as well.

 

For a trailer of the film and more details, see www.caregiversfilm.com.

 

Do you work with a disadvantaged population?  Do you often feel like it is difficult to understand the behavior of some of your clients or constituents.  Ever wonder how some people can be so short-tempered, or withdrawn when working with your group?  Perhaps, it would be helpful to learn more about trauma, and how it affects the daily lives of millions of Americans.

 

In Sacramento, on September 29th and 30th 2015, stakeholders will have the opportunity to join in on the dialogue around, "Building a Trauma-informed Nation:  Moving the Conversation into Action"; a 2-day conference that will focus on how to expend and spread the conversation about trauma-informed approaches, and create a national action agenda for creating a trauma-informed nation.  This conference will be webcast from Washington D.C. via Sacramento amplifier location, hosted by the Sacramento Minority Youth Violence Prevention Collective, to be determined and announced shortly.   

 

The conference will spotlight trauma-informed approaches in four major areas: the criminal justice system, education, health care, and communities and congregations. Within each of these areas, workplace and employment approaches will be addressed.  Speakers for this event include Gary Slutkin, Nancy Hardt, Father Jeff Puthoff, Tina Marie Hahn, Naina Khanna, Robin Delany-Shabazz, Barb Trader, and more.

 

Following each panel presentation, and discussion session, participants will engage in strategic action planning.

 

WHAT:    2015 Event: Building a Trauma-Informed Nation: Moving the Conversation into Action
               

WHEN:    September 29-30, 2015, 08:30 am-02:30 pm each day

 

WHERE:   Virtually, via amplifier site in Sacramento (to be determined). Stay tuned for location              

                information, coming soon.

 

HOW:    Whether you plan to join us at the amplifier site, or join in individually, click on the link below to                  RSVP:  http://www.agreeAdate.com/9483...0518D6D8725F3887C00A 
             You will receive a link to the Event Registration Website later this month.

 

WHY:    You will learn about effective collaborations, workplace issues, promising practices, and
            programs at the state and local levels.  And, you will participate in interactive working sessions to             engage in strategic action planning in your own local area and agencies. The  
            time is now to amplify the conversation and move into action.

 

 
 
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