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Opinion: Overcoming adverse childhood experiences [MercedSunStar.com]

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When I became a pastor as a young man, I was prepared to minister to my congregants through all phases of their lives. I expected to spend my time welcoming new babies into the world, sharing biblical principles with thriving families, and ministering to our elders in their last days. I knew I would be called upon to offer comfort through hard times, illness and loss.

What I didn’t expect to do much of was bury parishioners in their 40s and 50s, or even in their teens – men, women and children who died from everything from heart attacks to lung disease to suicide; parishioners who were suffering mightily from a lifetime of seemingly bad choices.

For years, I tried to figure out what was going on. Had I signed up to be a pastor in the dysfunctional family capitol of America? I moved to another community and found the same despair and early demise among parishioners of all economic backgrounds and ethnicities.

 

 

[For more of this story, written by Dave Lockridge, go to http://www.mercedsunstar.com/opinion/opn-columns-blogs/article3474051.html#storylink=cpy]

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I appreciate the journey Dave has shared. I think everyone that learns about the ACE Study and trauma-informed principles and practices enters a process of transformation that simply was not available to them previously. This is why I have started (at least in my own circles) referring to the journey itself as more than being "trauma-informed" and now being "trauma-transformed."  The distinction is lost on anyone not already "trauma-informed." I can also relate to Dave's story of being a life-long learner and yearning to dig deeper, to understand the "why's behind the what's." When I have learned of current and previous adolescent students who have lost their lives (ie, suicide, homicide, accidental drug overdose) my mind always goes to a place of "What if?" These were students of mine, who sat in my classes and in the desks I arranged and turned homework into me. What always lingers is a still, small voice that encourages me to not dwell on the set-backs or tragedies, but to use the talents/experiences/strengths I DO have - and the next opportunity to make a difference - and help contribute to the wellness of someone else.  

 

I get up each day, like Dave, hoping to design learning opportunities for others (in my case, educators because this is my own professional job role) on behalf of so many children/families (and educators) negatively impacted by adversity, neglect, and trauma. I am SO glad to know that Dave has found a way to dig deeper into how to make sense of pain and tragedy in the midst of such a beautiful world, and "light a candle" (so to speak) in the darkest of places, or on the darkest of days. This encourages me to not grow weary for trying to make a difference, but to continue on in the "good fight" where so many children, families and communities are contending with variables that in many cases have never come close to being discussed. 

 

There is a great deal more I would/could say - but suffice it to say, "Thanks Dave!"

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