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"They Know My Name": Parents Help Make a Collective Impact

Kimberlee Coronado recalls listening to a presentation of statewide data on children, poverty and trauma, and feeling acutely aware of the survey’s missing piece. It was a meeting on trauma-informed care; around the table were social service providers and representatives of local and county agencies.

Coronado felt her anger rising. “I said, ‘What’s not even on your radar are kids with disabilities; you’re missing a whole category of kids who experience daily trauma,’” she recalls. Coronado spoke from experience: three of her four children, aged 8 to 18, have autism, and all have suffered a range of mood, behavior and anxiety disorders.

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In addition, she’d read that children with attention deficit and similar disorders are more likely to be disciplined at school; in a landmark Texas study of 900,000 children, among those who had been suspended eleven or more times, one out of six had learning disabilities (compared to one in twelve of those who’d been suspended just once).

When Coronado voiced her frustration with the data, she was startled to hear the presenter say, “We need your voice. Do you want to be a collective impact partner?”

Later, she learned what that meant: She was being invited to join a group of professionals, parents and youth who would engage in a collective impact initiative through the Wisconsin Office of Children’s Mental Health (OCMH), working to boost access to services and foster collaboration among all family-serving state agencies.

Now Coronado co-chairs that group’s executive council and is a member of the access work group; she also serves on several county-level advisory committees and the Wisconsin Council on Mental Health.

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Pictured above, Kimberlee Coronado.

She’s learned how to translate her anger into action. “I am not the only person affected by the red tape,” she says. “Providers have a lot of red tape to go through, too.” As a collective impact partner (CIP), “I had to learn the value of getting everyone’s perspective. To not say, ‘Let’s just do that,’ but to say, ‘Do we have shared goals? Do we have a common agenda?’ I realized the work it takes.”

Kim Eithun Harshner, operations lead for OCMH and coordinator of the collective impact initiative, says Coronado and the other CIPs bring “a reality check for what it’s like to be living this every day and interacting with the systems—what’s helpful and what throws up barriers for families.”

The OCMH supports parent and youth partners with a stipend—$100 a day for the monthly meetings, plus travel expenses and meals—as well as training opportunities and a structured session before each meeting to discuss agenda items and personal experiences relevant to those topics.

Harshner says Coronado has reminded the group about the importance of respite care, even for families that have a strong support network. “[Coronado] and another parent sat on a committee that changed an administrative rule on day treatment; what they said influenced the way the rule was revised,” Harshner says.

For Coronado, having a place at the collective impact table means bringing a sense of urgency to a process that sometimes moves with aching slowness. During a discussion about the lack of access to psychotherapy for children, Coronado shared photographs of one of her children, whose anxious skin-picking, combined with eczema, escalated into a MRSA infection that required ten days in the hospital and IV antibiotic treatment.

“It’s showing that perspective: that people can’t wait,” she says. “I’ve come to realize that it takes a generation—or at least five to ten years—to see some movement. But there’s also ‘kid time’—what can we do today? What can we do next week? Six months from now may be too late for a family that’s in crisis.”

The OCMH has now become a model, Harshner says, inspiring other state departments in Wisconsin to seek the expertise of parents and youth. In turn, those individuals bring their growing knowledge—of the collective impact model, of trauma-informed care, of budgeting and policy—back to their local schools, agencies and neighborhoods.

Coronado, who previously worked in the restaurant business, translates lessons from that field into her work as a CIP. “I look at the flow of new people coming in: What kind of training do they have? Do we need to supplement that training?” Part of the work involves “teaching other parents…how to craft their story in a way that’s purposeful and meaningful.”

She’d like to see more communication and less duplication among agencies, along with increased attention to families’ needs. Whether the topic is the opioid crisis or access to mental health specialists in public schools, she says, parents should be helping to shape policy.

“The connections that are made are so awesome,” Coronado says. “I have no qualms now about reaching out to somebody from the Department of Public Instruction; they know my name. The way folks treat us at the table has been elevated. There’s more understanding of what we live through.”

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Community%2520Voices_coverThis article is part of the Community Voices: Creating a Just, Healthy and Resilient World collection written by @Anndee Hochman, a journalist and author whose work appears regularly in The Philadelphia Inquirer, on the website for public radio station WHYY and in other print and online venues. She teaches poetry and creative non-fiction in schools, senior centers, detention facilities and at writers' conferences.

Mobilizing Action for Resilient Communities (MARC) is a learning collaborative, coordinated by the Health Federation of Philadelphia with support from the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation and The California Endowment, of 14 communities actively engaged in building the movement for a just, healthy and resilient world. For more information, visit http://marc.healthfederation.org/

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Kimberlee,
Thank you for being the squeaky wheel and transforming your passionate parenting and advocacy into action! 

We are also the parents of two kids diagnosed with ASD when they were young.   
In
elementary school, one of our sons, who had a full-time 1:1 Behavioral Aide was bullied during recess - to the point of being on the ground 13 times - with the Aide standing right there! 

Each time we contacted the school and sent a follow up letter asking them to PLEASE protect our son.  The last time he was punched, we needed medical follow up.  The Pediatrician told us to file a police report - given the nature of the injuries.  That was also his last day at the school.  According to the school administration and the Behavioral Aide, this is just how kids play.  

For folks who haven't had these traumatizing parenting experiences, I imagine this story can sound unbelievable - but it does happen .....  if kids start to refuse to go to school - please investigate why they don't want to go. 

These were/are totally preventable ACEs ..... 

On behalf of parents everywhere, Kimberlee - THANK YOU!!! 

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