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On the Topic of Other People’s Good Fortune [PsychCentral.com]

 

A person who once steeped herself in envy of anyone who was successful changes her approach, by understanding her longing and her fear. It's good info for us who have ACEs that trigger our fears all the time. 

.....In this way, my perspective on my envy began to shift rather rapidly.

Suddenly, instead of intense jealousy, I perceived intense longing. When crowds of envious inner thoughts brought on waves of envious inner feelings, I trained myself to instead tune right in to the deep desire and the fear hiding out underneath them.

I saw that the depth of my longing was activating my fear, and my fear was activating my self-protective defenses, which were manifesting as envy and ill-will towards others who were succeeding where I saw myself as failing.

To continue reading this essay by Shannon Cutts, go to: http://blogs.psychcentral.com/...eoples-good-fortune/

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"I saw that the depth of my longing was activating my fear, and my fear was activating my self-protective defences, which were manifesting as envy and ill-will towards others who were succeeding where I saw myself as failing."

This article really resonated with me, although I mainly substituted envy and jealousy with self pity!  Same thing, to a degree... I think it's something people with high ACEs etc have to overcome.  It's about longing, desiring something better and seeing it many times out of reach for oneself.  That's where it's a very long hard slog, chipping away slowly but surely, ultimately finding reward in one's efforts, I guess!

Anyway perfect timing for reflection upon 2015 and to welcome a new 2016 with a few inspired thoughts!

A very happy new year to all.

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