Resilience: A Conversation

 

Rebecca Lewis-Pankratz and I were having an exchange on social media about the word resilience.

It went on and on. It lasted days.

And days.

It started on Twitter, moved to Facebook, and then crossed over to text messaging. 

There was no last word, no meet-in-the-middle moment or any kind of closure.

Just confusion. Rebecca suggested we dive deeper, face to face, via a Zoom conversation to be shared on ACEs Connection.

We wanted to know why some recoil at or reject the use (overuse) of the word resilience (me) while others find it the hopeful and healing and central (Rebecca).

The point wasn't to debate with, present to, or convince one another. The point was to have a conversation and understand each other better. To connect and stay curious, if not get totally clear.

And that's what we did. 

Click here for the recorded conversation.

URLlink:  https://zoom.us/recording/play...6D?continueMode=true

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Here's the social media post that sparked the exchange.

resHere's a link Harvard's Center on the Developing Child that Rebecca mentioned. 

Rebecca 3Here's an ACEs Too High story on resilience and resilience surveys.

Here's a video conversation between Dr. Mollie Marti and Lisa Cherry that I think might resonate with Rebecca (and me). 

Please share your comments, responses, reactions and any resources or conversations you find interesting, informative, or insightful. 

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Rebecca Lewis-Pankratz posted:

What I love most about this work is that we are all getting there together. It is so important to me that our deeper pursuit is the creation of connection around this mission and not trying to purify or crystalize something. I have so much to learn! I love doing that in a community.

Cissy thank you for being that safe person in this movement. It matters.

Rebecca: Your last line made me good cry and made it into my gratitude (even if I have attitude) journal. THANK YOU for inviting a conversation DURING conflict.

You, Rebecca are THAT safe person in the movement to me and how blessed that there are others. That makes it possible to keep at it when it's hard. You help me channel my less crabby self because you are ALWAYS sincere, inclusive, generous. THANK YOU. I'm not there but but thankfully we ALL get to change and evolve and be wrong and learn together. Whew!!!!  I LOVE you! Cis

Donna Jenson posted:

I just had my first viewing of the Rebecca-Cissy Show! What an inspiration, what good energy in your debate, your joy in learning with and from each other. My understanding of resilience just expanded! When's your next episode?

Warm regards,

Donna

The Rebecca-Cissy show cracks me up! Thanks for checking it out Donna!!! If we get that community we've discussed going here we should remember sharing short videos is always an option for those that find it easier than writing. 

Gail Kennedy (ACEs Connection Staff) posted:

I agree with Donna. What a great way to hear about an issue. Thank you both for your great thoughts and dialog together! I'm excited to share this with communities!

Thanks Gail!!!

It was fun and easy to do as we were getting no where without a face to face and we both couldn't stop and put it down, let it go, or get closure. Instead, we got closer!

Thanks for tuning in. I know how busy we can all get. I was a little slow on the uptake when Rebecca was trying to wrap us up - but live and learn

Cis

I just had my first viewing of the Rebecca-Cissy Show! What an inspiration, what good energy in your debate, your joy in learning with and from each other. My understanding of resilience just expanded! When's your next episode?

Warm regards,

Donna

What I love most about this work is that we are all getting there together. It is so important to me that our deeper pursuit is the creation of connection around this mission and not trying to purify or crystalize something. I have so much to learn! I love doing that in a community.

Cissy thank you for being that safe person in this movement. It matters.

nancy Miringoff posted:

Attachment, safety, resources, equity: these attribute form the foundation of individual and societal resilience.  Sometimes resilience can be limiting because it implies individual strength, almost too restrictive. It is person in environment that enables resilience to happen, it is not innate alone but with support, with equity, with attachment, with resources, etc.  resilience, awakening, survivorship, all good but they do not stand alone!  My two cents!  

Nancy:
That's exactly what we were talking about and discussing. Is resilience the result rather than something we try to foster in individuals? Often, it's something we judge people on without factoring in context or circumstances (positive and/or negative). But some, @Rebecca Lewis-Pankratz, for example, use it more as a verb, that seems quite similar to healing. So, it's good to talk and hear from people because it's used A LOT and means different things to different folks personally and as relates to movement work. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.  Cis

Attachment, safety, resources, equity: these attribute form the foundation of individual and societal resilience.  Sometimes resilience can be limiting because it implies individual strength, almost too restrictive. It is person in environment that enables resilience to happen, it is not innate alone but with support, with equity, with attachment, with resources, etc.  resilience, awakening, survivorship, all good but they do not stand alone!  My two cents!  

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