I would be interested in other people's responses please and thank you.
I have noticed that somehow it has become almost a sin to not be positive all the time. People are not just encouraged to be positive which I think is a good thing, but are shamed or blamed if they are "negative" which is not a good thing.
For many trauma survivors this behavior can be triggering and retraumatizing since many survivors have been taught for years to ignore their feelings, and/or that no one wants to hear what you are feeling.
It is very hard to be positive all the time when you have PTSD or Complex PTSD and maybe panic attacks, depression and anxiety. Plus possibly physical issues also that may have come from past abuse or other trauma.
When people are kind and supportive it can actually help you to shift your energy and be more positive. I think that telling people that they "should" be grateful and positive no matter what is counter productive and causes more problems.
I think this happens because so many people have trouble dealing with the pain of others. Many times it triggers their own unresolved pain and if they can tell someone else not to be where they are, then they can ignore their own issues.
Being positive is very beneficial and has many health benefits. I just think that instead of trying to make people be where they are not, how about accepting them and supporting them where they are?
Thoughts about this?