What trauma did to our kid (medium.com)

Been there and done that. We also adopted our daughter (China) where the going false idea is that kiddos from China are (or were) well-taken care of. Our daughter also diagnosed with RAD  now continues to suffer from complex trauma and PTSD - one of our professionals who understood the issues told us our daughter wat the trauma poster child - she has never been able to speak but understand fully. One of the biggest mistakes we made was to enroll her in school - we had to pull her out because the staff would not listen to the professionals or us about how to approach her in a trauma-informed posture. The school made our situation so much worse.  I will forever have to live with that decision.  We moved from a very affluent and well-known county in the DC metro area to another county where the staff did indeed listen - but our daughter was never able to navigate a classroom (b/c it became a trigger) again. Instead, they look to us as the trauma experts and come to the house with a plan - we've since made progress but it can be derailed so easily without managing the triggers. 

I went back to school and pursued a master's degree in Applied Behavior Analysis - all my research was in the area of early childhood trauma.  I also wrote an article for teachers and other educators - the content is really logical but so many in schools remain clueless. 

One of the best things we did for our daughter was to apply for and get her a service dog. He does interrupt behaviors and other task-trained specific things for her