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A Pathway to Prevention: Understanding root causes to help break the cycle of domestic violence [Blue Shield of California Foundation]

 

From Foundation Program Manager Jelissa Parham: 

Recently, I was in Oakland’s Chinatown neighborhood when I heard a couple fighting across the street from me. As I looked on, the man lunged toward the woman and began to choke her while her young toddler watched the entire scene, clutching a small toy.

Instinctively, before I had time to process the possible consequences, I called out: “No! Stop! Don’t touch her!” The man released his hold, and I briefly thought the incident was over. But I had only succeeded in redirecting his anger; he immediately crossed the street — with the clear intention of putting me in my place.

As I tried to defuse the situation, he pushed his body against mine and unleashed a torrent of expletives. I should mind my own business. Who do I think I am to tell him what to do?

“No, it’s not OK!” I said, “Don’t put your hands on her! Stop — no matter what, this isn’t right!” He kept shouting at me.

I grabbed my phone and pretended to call the police. Why didn’t I actually call? Here I was, being physically intimidated, accosted on a sidewalk in the middle of the day by a total stranger.

Here to read full story on Blue Shield Foundation website.

Link to report: A Life Course Framework for Preventing Domestic Violence

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