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Join in conversations inspired by Donna Jackson Nakazawa's book, Childhood Disrupted: How Your Biography Becomes Your Biology, and How You Can Heal. We'll chat about the latest research on how ACEs can affect our health, happiness, and relationships; vent a little; and brainstorm our best ideas for resiliency and healing.

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Coping with Stress During the COVID-19 Pandemic: One-Pager

I am posting on behalf of the California Department of Public Health, Injury and Prevention Branch (CDPH/IVPB) and the California Department of Social Service, Office of Child Abuse Prevention’s (CDSS/OCAP), Essentials for Childhood (EfC) Initiative, ACEs Connection, and the Yolo County Children’s Alliance to share the attached co-created and newly developed resource, “Coping with Stress During the COVID-19 Pandemic”.

This material is intended for Californian families experiencing the severe economic consequences resulting from novel coronavirus, COVID-19, and shares resources and offers supportive information on ways Californians can take care of themselves and their families during the pandemic.

A digital copy is available on ACEs Connection at the following link
bit.ly/CopingStressCOVID 

Coping 1

Coping 2

Please consider sharing this resource with your networks, the families you serve, or where families access meals or food boxes through the school community or food distribution centers. Thank you for considering this request and for your partnership.

Again, download this one-pager here, via the attachment below or via this link: 
bit.ly/CopingStressCOVID

We are grateful to Donna Jackson Nakazawa for allowing us to summarize and share her work and for partnership with the California Department of Public Health, Injury and Prevention Branch (CDPH/IVPB) and the California Department of Social Service, Office of Child Abuse Prevention’s (CDSS/OCAP), Essentials for Childhood (EfC) Initiative, and the Yolo County Children’s Alliance for co-creating this one-pager.

Free Mind Matters Online Series -- Build skills to overcome anxiety and increase resilience

In appreciation of and support for the tremendous work you are doing under challenging circumstances, Dibble will be hosting a free, 12-week Mind Matters online series with Dr. Carolyn Curtis and Dixie Zittlow.  
 
Unprecedented times, such as these, are stressful and call for everyone to think about ways to help others and themselves. Thus, we see this as an opportunity to offer free, professional development and help you and your staff practice self-care.
 
Join us as we teach the Mind Matters curriculum to help you develop skills and coping mechanisms to overcome anxiety and build resilience.
 
When:
 
Where:
 
 
 
 
What:
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Who:
 
 
 
 
Cost:
Every Tuesday at 9:30-10:30 AM Pacific starting March 24 through June 9
 
 
(Registrations will be done on a weekly basis.)
 
Each week, Carolyn Curtis, PhD, author of Mind Matters, and Dixie Zittlow, Dibble Master Trainer, will teach you a lesson from Mind Matters*. You will be given a link to the participant materials for each lesson with your registration confirmation email.
 
Those completing all 12 sessions will receive a Certificate of Completion as a professional development activity. 
 
Please share the registration link to your staff. Registration is limited. 
 
The recorded lessons will be available to on our YouTube channel for those unable to attend the live session.
 
FREE
*This online class will teach you the content of each Mind Matters lesson. It is not a training of facilitators to learn how to teach Mind Matters.


With all good wishes,
Kay Reed | Executive Director
The Dibble Institute | A mission-driven nonprofit
PO Box 7881 | Berkeley, CA 94707-0881
Phone: 800-695-7975 | Direct: 510-812-6238
www.DibbleInstitute.org | KayReed@DibbleInstitute.org

Need 45 Trauma-Informed Practitioners or Clinicians For Study on Using a Brain Regulation Headband-Bellabee Designed To Help Trauma Survivors Regulate Their Brains.

Need 45 Trauma-Informed Practitioners or Clinicians For Study on Using a Brain Regulation Headband-Bellabee Designed To Help Trauma Survivors Regulate Their Brains. 

All trauma informed practitioners who are suffering with or who work with adults or children suffering with C-PTSD, PTSD, Developmental Trauma, Depression, Anxiety, ADHD & Sleep Disorders are welcome to apply to be considered for this study.

We currently have 41 applicants, and applicants are approved on a first come first serve basis.   Since we only have a few spots left I encourage all who are interested to read this post and then reach out by requesting an application.

As a trauma survivor who is thriving, my purpose in aligning with  this initiative is to give back by helping the millions of other trauma survivors gain access to the Bellabee, an evidence-based, leading-edge, safe neuro-therapy headband that has worked for me and for thousands of others around the world in regulating their brains, and therefore regulating their lives.

My background includes being the Acesconnection.com community manager for the Orange County, CA area, a 25 year background as a Master Life Coach, coaching hundreds of people on a personal, spiritual and professional level, hosting a livestream webcast on personal transformation & post traumatic growth, sharing my story as a trauma survivor who went from surviving to thriving, including long term recovery with alcohol, morbid obesity and an anxiety disorder through doing extensive research in order to find an use evidence based brain, body and mind therapies and programs.

I recently accepted an invitation to become a member of the advisory board for Bellabee, Inc., maker of a neuro-modulation headband that regulates brain states, since their mission and products are in alignment with my own. Bellabee is a neuro-tech headband with specific protocols designed to help trauma survivors regulate their brains so they can regulate their moods, sleep, concentration & reduce or eliminate trauma symptoms. When we regulate our brains, we regulate our lives.  For some survivors this means being able to make clear choices — from a regulated brain —  for the first time ever.

One of the main reasons I am thriving today is because, in my mid-fifties, after reading Bessell van der Kolk MD’s book, The Body Keeps the Score-Brain, Mind and Body in Healing of Trauma, I discovered that as a young child my developing brain had been significantly traumatized  (and therefore impacted) by being exposed to a toxic (emotionally neglectful and abusive) environment for the first 18 years of my life. Up until then I had never considered myself a trauma survivor since I thought trauma only applied to sexual or physical abuse.

 My trauma was mainly due to emotional neglect and abuse.  Since I (as well as my therapists and psychiatrists) didn’t know my brain and nervous systems had been essentially injured in my childhood due to emotional neglect and abuse, I never thought to seek out brain or nervous system based therapies.  I only sought out psychological, and spiritual help.

I had been on an intense psychological and spiritual healing path for over 25 years before I found out I had undiagnosed trauma.  In that time I’d gotten sober, lost over 160 pounds (weight loss I have maintained it for 20 years) and had turned my life around. 

However, it wasn’t until I read  The Body Keeps the Score that I realized that the main reason why stressful experiences that didn’t seem to bother other people would seem to easily trigger me, make me really anxious or make me completely shut down, or why I didn’t have many close friends or have the kind of romantic relationship I wanted, or why I couldn’t handle major stress without regressing into unhealthy behaviors, or why it was still so hard for me to hold a focus, was due to my brain being chronically dysregulated due to un-diagnosed and untreated trauma.

My trauma wasn’t due to sexual or physical abuse.  It was due to my primary caregiver, my mother being so dysregulated (anxious and depressed) due to her own trauma that she could not attune to my emotional needs. This is what is known as emotional neglect.  In addition, she also projected her deep rooted shame onto me.  This is known as emotional abuse.  This type of trauma is also known as relational trauma since it happens in the context of close relationships. 

This type of trauma causes a child’s developing brain to over develop the fight, flight, freeze areas due to it feeling chronically abandoned causing anxiety and depression, and under develop the executive function, causing attention problems, and emotional regulation and impulse control problems.  Once these brain patterns are set in childhood, the brain wires this way and without brain based interventions can stay wired this way for a persons entire life.

My intention in aligning with Bellabee is that by sharing my story of how using a brain training device like Bellabee has helped me,  I can help other survivors be spared years or even decades of unnecessary suffering due to not being aware that they may not only have psychological and spiritual wounds from a difficult childhood, but brain and nervous systems wounds that need brain-based therapies to heal.  

As Bessell van der Kolk, MD states in his book, The Body Keeps The Score, no amount of talk therapy can completely heal a traumatized brain since trauma lives in the brain and body, not the mind.  It is not to say that talk therapy can’t help at all since it has helped me greatly on a cognitive level in terms of understanding what happened to me, having compassion and forgiveness for myself and others, learning healthier coping mechanisms, etc. 

However, if you have unhealed trauma, unless you get brain based therapies to heal your brain and nervous system, you will likely continually to struggle with anxiety, depression, relationships, impulse control, attention and eventually even chronic pain and other illnesses that are due to living in a chronically dysregulated, stressed brain and nervous system.

As a result of training my brain with Bellabee as well as traditional neurofeedback, I no longer need to take meds to sleep at night. I am in a happy, healthy romantic relationship and have several close friends.  I've been able to decrease my dosage of antidepressants by 50 percent and I can hold a focus for much longer periods of time, which has enabled me to be much more successful in my career.

All this adds up to the best news: I am a trauma survivor who is thriving and I believe you & your client’s can too!

This is why I have joined the Bellabee advisory board.  I know what Bellabee and brain training have done for me, so of course I want to share this success with fellow trauma survivors. 

Below is information about Bellabee and the study we are doing with trauma-informed providers.

Participating in this study does require a modest investment of your time and money,  however when you consider the potential return on your investment - a tool that may help regulate your and/or your clients brains, so they can life their best life I believe it is an investment worth making. 

All I can say is that given how much better my life is since I have been using Bellabee, I am certainly glad I did.   

If you resonate with this initiative and feel called to participate, I encourage you to apply.  Please feel free to forward this to fellow trauma—informed care providers you think would be interested in participating.

Information About Bellabee

What is Bellabee? Bellabee is a neuro-tech headband that  provides frequency-specific protocols to train and regulate brain function for children and adults.  There are specific protocols specially designed to help regulate brains with trauma including C-PTSD, PTSD, development trauma, shock trauma, as well as depression, anxiety, attention deficit/hyper-activity disorder (ADHD) and sleep.  It is designed to be used throughout the day during regular activities as well as a night as a sleep aid.

What Technology Is Used With Bellabee? Bellabee uses Pulsed Electromagnetic Field (PEMF) technology. PEMF technology is a safe, FDA-approved technology with a 40-year proven track record of success and safety with dozens of clinical trials and studies.

Is Bellabee Safe?   If you feel safe using earbuds for your cell phone you will feel safe using Bellabee since it uses even less energy than your phone's headset. PEMF therapy was approved by the FDA in 1979. It actually originated from NASA’s research involving the benefits of using pulsed electromagnetic fields on astronauts for fatigue, depression, and other symptoms following even short trips to outer space.

How Does Bellabee Work? Using Bellabee is like putting an earphone at the back of the head and letting the brain “listen” to the various frequencies it emits. Due to the frequency following response-FFR principle -- the brain will automatically sync with the frequency Bellabee emits, regulating your brain to the frequency or state you set it for.  Bellabee has designed specific protocols for trauma survivors to use to regulate their brains. There are also a specific protocols for anxiety, depression, sleep, concentration and attention deficit hyper activity disorder (ADHD).

In addition, if you have been or are working with a neurofeedback specialist,  you can input custom frequencies into your Bellabee program via the Bellabee IOS or Android app based on the results of a recent brain map (Q EEG) you have had done, or on what your neurofeedback specialist recommends.

Why Using The Bellabee Is Helpful For Trauma Survivors:  One of the most devastating aspects of being a trauma survivor is the way it changes and dysregulates brain function.  Survivors typically have an extremely difficult time regulating their brains and therefore, their moods as well as the ability to sleep and concentrate. 

Chronic brain dysregulation gives rise to the various mental and behavioral health issues that run rampant in the trauma survivor population. These include, but are not limited to  depression, anxiety, panic attacks, attention disorders, various additional mental health disorders, all types of substance and behavioral addictions, and sleep disorders.

Why Is Bellabee Helpful? Our ability to achieve and transition through to optimal, healthy brain, body and mind states determines how successful we are at managing stress, moods, the ability to stay focused, relationships, success in our careers, and getting a good night's sleep. Bellabee helps achieve and maintain brain regulation. 

What Kind of Results Has Bellabee Achieved For Users with PTSD: The following are from PTSD users: Jai Kadilak – “All I have to say is try it . Freaking amazing , I have to admit I felt like It was snake oil but when you relax and feel the effects of it daily, it will surprise you. I think especially this time in the world with the additional political stress this will be a game changer. I have tried many techniques and this really helps things like focus , anxiety, PTSD. We should be blessed for a company to come up with such a positive product or should I say tool.”
I  have been using the device  for the last 3 weeks, I'm very happy with it  I suffer from Fibromyalgia & chronic PTSD plus many other serious health complications that go with Fibromyalgia; the first time I used this I noticed a BIG difference. I used the Reduced Stress first & it did exactly that! Same with the meditation & improve focus. I can now study, relax & meditate again as I've been unable to do all of these since my accident 11 years ago & I'm extremely grateful Thank you for a great product”  Check out all of the Bellabee success stories by visiting Bellabee success stories.  

What is the Study About? We need to gather more data on how Bellabee is performing for people impacted by trauma by having trauma informed practitioners who are also survivors try Bellabee for themselves, and also by having practitioners offer Bellabee to their clients suffering with various types of trauma. In order to make participation in this study as easy as possible, we are offering study participants the opportunity to purchase a Bellabee at our cost of $79.00.  The retail price of Bellabee is $199.00, so there is a savings of $120.00 when you participate in the study.  Our goal is to help practitioners and their clients try a new tool to achieve brain regulation, and to help Bellabee increase the sample size for this population for our study.


What Is Required?

1. Completion of the study application.  See below for how to request an application.
2. You must identify as a trauma-informed practitioner who is either also a survivor, who will use the Bellabee on yourself and/or on a client who is a trauma survivor/s.
3. Using the Bellabee at least 5 times per week for five, 30-minute sessions on yourself and/or on your clients for eight weeks.  (Given that the Bellabee can be worn/used while working, playing and sleeping, this should be relatively easy to accomplish).
4. Rating before and after symptoms related to trauma, attention, sleep, anxiety, depression, impulse control. A form outlining this process will be included with your application that will be emailed to you upon your request for an application.
5. Updating and submitting a brief rating report at the end of the first and second month with the rating comparison of your and/or your clients symptoms severity from a scale of 1-5.
6. The purchase of a Bellabee at our cost of $79.00.  The regular price is $199.00.  You will own the Bellabee after the study is complete.

This study is limited to 45 participants.  All user identity data will be confidential. Qualified participants will be approved on a first- come, first-serve basis. Once 45 participants are chosen the study will be closed.

How To Apply To Be a Participant In This Study:

If you are interested in participating and would like to be considered as a study member, please respond ASAP by requesting an application since spots we be filled on a first come, first serve basis by our applications deadline, Friday, March 20th, 2020, 5pm PST. 

To request an application email Mary@marygcoach.com with the subject line: Bellabee Study Application.  Include your first name, last name, profession and what types of clients you work with.

For more information about the Bellabee or to see Bellabee’s proven track record of success check out the Bellabee website.

If you have any questions feel free to email me.

I look forward to working with you to heal trauma on a brain, body and mind level.

Thank You,


Mary Giuliani
mary@marygcoach.com

Need 45 Trauma-Informed Practitioners or Clinicians For Study on Using a Brain Regulation Headband-Bellabee Designed To Help Trauma Survivors Regulate Their Brains.

Need 45 Trauma-Informed Practitioners or Clinicians For Study on Using a Brain Regulation Headband-Bellabee Designed To Help Trauma Survivors Regulate Their Brains. 

All trauma informed practitioners who are suffering with or who work with adults or children suffering with C-PTSD, PTSD, Developmental Trauma, Depression, Anxiety, ADHD & Sleep Disorders are welcome to apply to be considered for this study.

 The deadline to request and submit your application is: March 20, 2020

As a trauma survivor who is thriving, my purpose in aligning with  this initiative is to give back by helping the millions of other trauma survivors gain access to the Bellabee, an evidence-based, leading-edge, safe neuro-therapy headband that has worked for me and for thousands of others around the world in regulating their brains, and therefore regulating their lives.

My background includes being the Acesconnection.com community manager for the Orange County, CA area, a 25 year background as a Master Life Coach, coaching hundreds of people on a personal, spiritual and professional level, hosting a livestream webcast on personal transformation & post traumatic growth, sharing my story as a trauma survivor who went from surviving to thriving, including long term recovery with alcohol, morbid obesity and an anxiety disorder through doing extensive research in order to find an use evidence based brain, body and mind therapies and programs.

I recently accepted an invitation to become a member of the advisory board for Bellabee, Inc., maker of a neuro-modulation headband that regulates brain states, since their mission and products are in alignment with my own. Bellabee is a neuro-tech headband with specific protocols designed to help trauma survivors regulate their brains so they can regulate their moods, sleep, concentration & reduce or eliminate trauma symptoms. When we regulate our brains, we regulate our lives.  For some survivors this means being able to make clear choices — from a regulated brain —  for the first time ever.

One of the main reasons I am thriving today is because, in my mid-fifties, after reading Bessell van der Kolk MD’s book, The Body Keeps the Score-Brain, Mind and Body in Healing of Trauma, I discovered that as a young child my developing brain had been significantly traumatized  (and therefore impacted) by being exposed to a toxic (emotionally neglectful and abusive) environment for the first 18 years of my life. Up until then I had never considered myself a trauma survivor since I thought trauma only applied to sexual or physical abuse.

 My trauma was mainly due to emotional neglect and abuse.  Since I (as well as my therapists and psychiatrists) didn’t know my brain and nervous systems had been essentially injured in my childhood due to emotional neglect and abuse, I never thought to seek out brain or nervous system based therapies.  I only sought out psychological, and spiritual help.

I had been on an intense psychological and spiritual healing path for over 25 years before I found out I had undiagnosed trauma.  In that time I’d gotten sober, lost over 160 pounds (weight loss I have maintained it for 20 years) and had turned my life around. 

However, it wasn’t until I read  The Body Keeps the Score that I realized that the main reason why stressful experiences that didn’t seem to bother other people would seem to easily trigger me, make me really anxious or make me completely shut down, or why I didn’t have many close friends or have the kind of romantic relationship I wanted, or why I couldn’t handle major stress without regressing into unhealthy behaviors, or why it was still so hard for me to hold a focus, was due to my brain being chronically dysregulated due to un-diagnosed and untreated trauma.

My trauma wasn’t due to sexual or physical abuse.  It was due to my primary caregiver, my mother being so dysregulated (anxious and depressed) due to her own trauma that she could not attune to my emotional needs. This is what is known as emotional neglect.  In addition, she also projected her deep rooted shame onto me.  This is known as emotional abuse.  This type of trauma is also known as relational trauma since it happens in the context of close relationships. 

This type of trauma causes a child’s developing brain to over develop the fight, flight, freeze areas due to it feeling chronically abandoned causing anxiety and depression, and under develop the executive function, causing attention problems, and emotional regulation and impulse control problems.  Once these brain patterns are set in childhood, the brain wires this way and without brain based interventions can stay wired this way for a persons entire life.

My intention in aligning with Bellabee is that by sharing my story of how using a brain training device like Bellabee has helped me,  I can help other survivors be spared years or even decades of unnecessary suffering due to not being aware that they may not only have psychological and spiritual wounds from a difficult childhood, but brain and nervous systems wounds that need brain-based therapies to heal.  

As Bessell van der Kolk, MD states in his book, The Body Keeps The Score, no amount of talk therapy can completely heal a traumatized brain since trauma lives in the brain and body, not the mind.  It is not to say that talk therapy can’t help at all since it has helped me greatly on a cognitive level in terms of understanding what happened to me, having compassion and forgiveness for myself and others, learning healthier coping mechanisms, etc. 

However, if you have unhealed trauma, unless you get brain based therapies to heal your brain and nervous system, you will likely continually to struggle with anxiety, depression, relationships, impulse control, attention and eventually even chronic pain and other illnesses that are due to living in a chronically dysregulated, stressed brain and nervous system.

As a result of training my brain with Bellabee as well as traditional neurofeedback, I no longer need to take meds to sleep at night. I am in a happy, healthy romantic relationship and have several close friends.  I've been able to decrease my dosage of antidepressants by 50 percent and I can hold a focus for much longer periods of time, which has enabled me to be much more successful in my career.

All this adds up to the best news: I am a trauma survivor who is thriving and I believe you & your client’s can too!

This is why I have joined the Bellabee advisory board.  I know what Bellabee and brain training have done for me, so of course I want to share this success with fellow trauma survivors. 

Below is information about Bellabee and the study we are doing with trauma-informed providers.

Participating in this study does require a modest investment of your time and money,  however when you consider the potential return on your investment - a tool that may help regulate your and/or your clients brains, so they can life their best life I believe it is an investment worth making. 

All I can say is that given how much better my life is since I have been using Bellabee, I am certainly glad I did.   

If you resonate with this initiative and feel called to participate, I encourage you to apply.  Please feel free to forward this to fellow trauma—informed care providers you think would be interested in participating.

Information About Bellabee

What is Bellabee? Bellabee is a neuro-tech headband that  provides frequency-specific protocols to train and regulate brain function for children and adults.  There are specific protocols specially designed to help regulate brains with trauma including C-PTSD, PTSD, development trauma, shock trauma, as well as depression, anxiety, attention deficit/hyper-activity disorder (ADHD) and sleep.  It is designed to be used throughout the day during regular activities as well as a night as a sleep aid.

What Technology Is Used With Bellabee? Bellabee uses Pulsed Electromagnetic Field (PEMF) technology. PEMF technology is a safe, FDA-approved technology with a 40-year proven track record of success and safety with dozens of clinical trials and studies.

Is Bellabee Safe?   If you feel safe using earbuds for your cell phone you will feel safe using Bellabee since it uses even less energy than your phone's headset. PEMF therapy was approved by the FDA in 1979. It actually originated from NASA’s research involving the benefits of using pulsed electromagnetic fields on astronauts for fatigue, depression, and other symptoms following even short trips to outer space.

How Does Bellabee Work? Using Bellabee is like putting an earphone at the back of the head and letting the brain “listen” to the various frequencies it emits. Due to the frequency following response-FFR principle -- the brain will automatically sync with the frequency Bellabee emits, regulating your brain to the frequency or state you set it for.  Bellabee has designed specific protocols for trauma survivors to use to regulate their brains. There are also a specific protocols for anxiety, depression, sleep, concentration and attention deficit hyper activity disorder (ADHD).

In addition, if you have been or are working with a neurofeedback specialist,  you can input custom frequencies into your Bellabee program via the Bellabee IOS or Android app based on the results of a recent brain map (Q EEG) you have had done, or on what your neurofeedback specialist recommends.

Why Using The Bellabee Is Helpful For Trauma Survivors:  One of the most devastating aspects of being a trauma survivor is the way it changes and dysregulates brain function.  Survivors typically have an extremely difficult time regulating their brains and therefore, their moods as well as the ability to sleep and concentrate. 

Chronic brain dysregulation gives rise to the various mental and behavioral health issues that run rampant in the trauma survivor population. These include, but are not limited to  depression, anxiety, panic attacks, attention disorders, various additional mental health disorders, all types of substance and behavioral addictions, and sleep disorders.

Why Is Bellabee Helpful? Our ability to achieve and transition through to optimal, healthy brain, body and mind states determines how successful we are at managing stress, moods, the ability to stay focused, relationships, success in our careers, and getting a good night's sleep. Bellabee helps achieve and maintain brain regulation. 

What Kind of Results Has Bellabee Achieved For Users with PTSD: The following are from PTSD users: Jai Kadilak – “All I have to say is try it . Freaking amazing , I have to admit I felt like It was snake oil but when you relax and feel the effects of it daily, it will surprise you. I think especially this time in the world with the additional political stress this will be a game changer. I have tried many techniques and this really helps things like focus , anxiety, PTSD. We should be blessed for a company to come up with such a positive product or should I say tool.”
I  have been using the device  for the last 3 weeks, I'm very happy with it  I suffer from Fibromyalgia & chronic PTSD plus many other serious health complications that go with Fibromyalgia; the first time I used this I noticed a BIG difference. I used the Reduced Stress first & it did exactly that! Same with the meditation & improve focus. I can now study, relax & meditate again as I've been unable to do all of these since my accident 11 years ago & I'm extremely grateful Thank you for a great product”  Check out all of the Bellabee success stories by visiting Bellabee success stories.  

What is the Study About? We need to gather more data on how Bellabee is performing for people impacted by trauma by having trauma informed practitioners who are also survivors try Bellabee for themselves, and also by having practitioners offer Bellabee to their clients suffering with various types of trauma. In order to make participation in this study as easy as possible, we are offering study participants the opportunity to purchase a Bellabee at our cost of $79.00.  The retail price of Bellabee is $199.00, so there is a savings of $120.00 when you participate in the study.  Our goal is to help practitioners and their clients try a new tool to achieve brain regulation, and to help Bellabee increase the sample size for this population for our study.


What Is Required?

1. Completion of the study application.  See below for how to request an application.
2. You must identify as a trauma-informed practitioner who is either also a survivor, who will use the Bellabee on yourself and/or on a client who is a trauma survivor/s.
3. Using the Bellabee at least 5 times per week for five, 30-minute sessions on yourself and/or on your clients for eight weeks.  (Given that the Bellabee can be worn/used while working, playing and sleeping, this should be relatively easy to accomplish).
4. Rating before and after symptoms related to trauma, attention, sleep, anxiety, depression, impulse control. A form outlining this process will be included with your application that will be emailed to you upon your request for an application.
5. Updating and submitting a brief rating report at the end of the first and second month with the rating comparison of your and/or your clients symptoms severity from a scale of 1-5.
6. The purchase of a Bellabee at our cost of $79.00.  The regular price is $199.00.  You will own the Bellabee after the study is complete.

This study is limited to 45 participants.  All user identity data will be confidential. Qualified participants will be approved on a first- come, first-serve basis. Once 45 participants are chosen the study will be closed.

How To Apply To Be a Participant In This Study:

If you are interested in participating and would like to be considered as a study member, please respond ASAP by requesting an application since spots we be filled on a first come, first serve basis by our applications deadline, Friday, March 20th, 2020, 5pm PST. 

To request an application email Mary@marygcoach.com with the subject line: Bellabee Study Application.  Include your first name, last name, profession and what types of clients you work with.

For more information about the Bellabee or to see Bellabee’s proven track record of success check out the Bellabee website.

If you have any questions feel free to email me.

I look forward to working with you to heal trauma on a brain, body and mind level.

Thank You,


Mary Giuliani
mary@marygcoach.com

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My position in the Hamilton County Schools was a position that many of the ACE group would envy. My work was directly with teacher, student, family and the courts/jails/police.  If a teacher had a problem with a student very often he/she would come to me for assistance.. If the state recognized this student as conduct disordered or emotionally disturbed services could be established and my network, extensive, brought the problems to understanding and hopeful solutions. Positions such as this one should be available in every school especially elementary years. 

     Perhaps foundation monies could be found to finance a position or two and actually devote staff with university help to measure successes and failures and develop a model program for the entire country. 

 

  Let me share some of the qualifications for such a person.. First and probably the most important is willingness to really "get dirty"..  The type of home visited ; the people (parent) can be a turn off for someone not equipped to see beyond.. It is that "seeing beyond", undefined, that is the most willing characteristic.  I am male and had a bit of an easier way. Most of my clients were boys and most of the parents were single home with mother only.  The challenges  are myriad and the door in the face just one of the obstacles . The goal, never lost, is the real reward... the child. 

  My regret was having to retire before ready to go. Lost hearing on one side due to Acoustic Neuroma, a benign growth that had to be removed from the acoustic nerve..  Bob Brooks

I am baffled and frustrated at the lack of trauma understanding among therapist especially those who work with couples and adults. Does anyone else find this troubling? My partner attends 12 step program and sees a therapist--but very little of it is addressing his ACES. I encourage the work he is doing but have to bite my tongue on the missing pieces, lest I trigger him. A previous newly trained, couples counselor spent alot of time on "communication" all the while ignoring the ACES related symptoms that were in the room. Does one have to seek out trauma therapists specifically? Any thoughts or perspectives.

Hello friends

   I need help and want to be more interactive in this goup. i have purchased the book. Childhood disrupted by Donna Nakazawa. i am a ADULT TRAUMA VICTIM  and feel like a WOUNDED CHILD.  I JUST STARTED COUNSELING WITH a EMDR Therapist for about 3 weeks now. it hurts. My mother was a  female batterer. Can this group help me to learn WHY do we not want our biograpy to become our biology. i guesss i am finding my voice have the questions now in life to ask why. As a kid i got beat up alot by my impatient mother and my absent father.  Can this group help me to get connected i feel alone and isoloated. I am involved in the 12 step groups as well. Both of my parents were Untreated adult children of alcoholics. I am 58 years old phyiically or i have 58 years chronically years but biological i feel like a wounded lil boy still, please connecwith  me so i can fell aprt of and learn to heal too.

 

 

 

Rick friday 02/17/17 central Fla.

Greetings, All!  Dwayne, here!  

First... TRIGGER ALERT!  TRIGGER ALERT!  This Blog-Post may cause some readers to TRIGGER into a TRAUMATIZED STATE!  Of course, that is never my intent; but, I thought it would be polite to warn anyone who needed such warning.  Now... 

I am not entirely sure how/where to start.  During my daily inner-dialogues, I hardly ever have this discussion -- there is just too much pain and shame involved.  I even end up feeling ashamed about those rare positive accomplishments I had; because they stand in such contrast to the abuses I endured.  

First, the good news... or, was it?    I was a genius, during my childhood and adolescent years -- with an I.Q. that was off the scale and a strong, vibrant Creative Muse... I was a wunderkind!  But, socially and emotionally, I was retarded -- in the truest sense of that word.  The de-evolution... Was it bred into me... and provided the gap through which all the abuses snuck in?  Or, did it come about, as a coping mechanism, from the abuses?  Hard to say, now that I am in my mid-50s.  Such questions keep me eternally, constantly frustrated with myself.     

The first incidence of sexual abuse happened when I was 5-years-old... I was gang-raped by older school peers in the boys washroom, at school.  It was a lunch-hour... I was stripped completely naked, punched and kicked and warned not to talk about anything that they did to me.  They gang-raped me, repeatedly -- anally and orally... Even the boys that weren't young enough to ejaculate took their turns.  After they'd finished their "fun", they warned me again not to mention a word; and they left me in the cold, stainless steel trough of the sink... naked, aching and trembling, covered in urine and semen and feces and some blood, and several clumps of paper towel thrown in around me... and told I'd better hurry up and clean up and get dressed, or I'd be late for class.  

I did as I was told -- cleaned myself as best I could... got dressed... tried to comb my hair with my fingers, in one of the mirrors... wove and wobbled my way back to class, stumbling to my seat, while the teacher wasn't looking... and carrying my great shame of that first-time sexual-encounter.  It gave me an erection; so I "knew" I had enjoyed it.      What kind of person was I!?!      

Similar gang-rapes happened a couple more times over that first two-weeks.  I got better and quicker, at cleaning myself up.  I'd be getting more of it, the other kids would tease me in the halls, seeing as how I loved it so much.  I decided they were being reasonable; so I should too.  I mean, at home, my father was physically abusive -- disappointed in his day-dreaming son -- and my mother kept me clean and fed, and gave out as many hugs as father would allow her... She couldn't really stop Dad's beatings -- THAT  was his job!  And, they both told me they "loved" me... So, at least I was able to take some gut-deep, visceral pleasure from the sexual abuses.  I certainly didn't get much pleasure at home... And, so, I never mentioned the rapings to anyone.  

Dad being military, we moved around a bit.  The sexual abuses continued -- I felt like I must have a "mark" on me, that the same type of people would find me wherever we lived.  By age 11-12, my abusers shifted towards men -- specifically, men "in authority"... 2 priests, an in-law, my dope dealers (trading my body for drugs)... and some of their friends... 

Oh, yes!  I started abusing drugs at age-10, to help me cloak myself in oblivion, as -- what seemed to me at the time to be -- a "reasonable" coping mechanism.  I continued active addiction from ages 10-31 -- long after the abuses stopped -- because... Reality was not my friend.  The sexual abuses by others stopped sometime after my 17th birthday.  From those years, to this day, I remember the taste of human semen, urine, feces, and blood... I remember what dog semen tastes and feels like, as well as goat, donkey, and horse semen... And I still have nightmares (and daymares, when triggered), of the time I was raped with a baseball bat, trading that for one more line of coke.  I had to lay in the dealer's tub for over 3-hours, before my anus would shut enough to stop voiding my bowels... Yeah, good times... Not.  

And, that is just a nutshell version of the sexual abuses I let others put me through... from ages 5-17.  From ages 17-25, I got into a chronic rhythm of genital self-mutilation... so that: a) I could still feel some pleasure, and b) to punish myself for making myself "gay".  And then there were the physical abuses... 

From age-5 onward, my father was extremely physically abusive.  The beatings were in the form of extreme-spankings from ages 5-12, leaving me criss-crossed and layered with welts from his hand, his belt, a wooden spoon, a hair-brush, a wooden switch, electrical cords... from halfway up my back, down to just above the back of my knees; and often the implements would pop partly out of his hands and wrap around my body.  I had the buckle of his belt come loose, whip around my hips, and snap against my boyish genitals on more than one occasion.  He would "spank" me until my bladder would let go; and then he'd get angry and spank me even harder, for pissing all over myself and the floor.  I would just barely be able to crawl up the stairs to my room.  As soon as possible, after, my mother would hurry up and wash off blood and urine, in a stinging bath of Epsom salts... dry me off as tenderly as she could... dress me in my pyjamas, and lay me in my bed -- where I would pass-out shivering.  After age-12, Dad decided I was too old for spankings... So his disappointments in me registered with fists to the head, instead.  Other physical abuses came from bullies, at school.  That continued until I was 15.  When I came back from summer vacation, I had developed a new attitude... and some major fighting skills.  The first bully who tried to intimidate me in front of the class, got laid-out unconscious.  I declared "hunting season" on ALL bullies.  I spent 3 months sending one after another home or to hospital.  None of them dared to confess that they were afraid of the scrawny little kid in their grade or lower.  So i got away with it.     ... I was vicious with them...   I ... enjoyed it.     And so, it is another great shame that I carry with me.  

And that is the shortest version possible, of "my" disrupted childhood... a lot of details have been left out, mainly in the interest of brevity.  What helped me get through all of it?  Well... Time... a 12-Step Recovery Fellowship that helped me to take a really honest look at myself... more Time... There were still mistakes made along the way; but I worked hard to find the lesson in each one, and put it to use in the next stages of my life... Giving back/Reaching out, to those who I found (or who found me) along the way... Sharing -- openly and honestly -- whenever anyone was willing and courageous enough to ask me.  There has never been any single-set, perfect solution.  I'm just not willing to go back there.  

Thank you for letting me Share with you!     I hope this is the correct venue for this -- or, wow!  You are all scratching your heads, out there, thinking, "Whhhaaaaaatttt?!?"      (LOL)  

Peace & Blessings, All!  

Rev. L. Dwayne Decker (ULC) 

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