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Reply to "ACEs in the LGBTQ Community"

How would this group handle conflicts within the LGBTQ Community that deal with or result in ACES?

"Cotton Ceiling" comes to mind. How would your group deal with a young lesbian being told that she is transphobic because she is not sexually attracted to a male  (with a penis and testicles) who identifies as a lesbian?

It is quite traumatic for a gay kid who is just beginning to explore and understand their sexual orientation to be told that they are wrong, sick, evil because they are not attracted to the opposite sex, but within the LGBTQ community that is exactly what happens to young lesbians who say they are exclusively same sex attracted.

Young lesbians currently aren't even allowed to exclude males from their lesbian (or rape survivor) support groups, because it's transphobic to say that a male...with a penis... isn't really a lesbian, as long as that male says that he is.

When the needs of gay females come up against the desires of straight males who identify as lesbians... males desires are always prioritized and lesbians are always abused to some degree even if that abuse is merely insisting that there is something wrong with them for not being sexually attracted to a "female penis". Further abuse includes actual physical abuse and rape, not limited to but including coercive rape. 

 

Also wondering about those in the detrans community especially gay youth who are therefore still a part of the LGBTQ community but being accused of transphobia when they talk about how their experiences , especially of being transitioned by parents and/or professionals when they were small children?

 

There are other less serious but still painful issues, such as the elder members of the gay community, seeing their history being erased and rewritten, subjected to abuse on social media when they speak about their experiences. For example the abuse from "the lgbtq community" hurled at Fred Sargeant who was actually at Stonewall, when he talks about the black lesbian who started the uprising, Storme Delarverie who was an important lesbian figure who many young lesbians look up to, now being erased as a lesbian and "transed" in death and being called a "trans man of color" and having her part in the uprising written out of the story to now include drag queens who not only did not identify as women being transed post mortem and now even though they weren't even there when it started, being given credit for "throwing the first brick at stonewall to which gay people now owe their liberation to trans women of color!" There are a number gay and trans people who were actually at Stonewall who are attacked on social media or their own blogsites for daring to say what they experienced there by those who identify as "queer". (Which by the way is still a very painful slur to many of us but again, we're not allowed to say so because "transphobic".) 

 

So yeah, I'm just wondering who gets to be the voice of the LGBTQ Community when it comes to ACES when so many of us experience abuse within the community itself. My experience tells me that the voices of females who don't center the feelings of males will be quite limited.

 

 

(If you are not informed about the current issues in the "LFBTQ Community" that I've mentioned, please go ahead and do some research about it before declaring that what I've said "never happens".)

 

 

 

 

 

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