Thank you for your heartfelt response. I agree. Feeling safe is a struggle I deal with most days. I am in the same boat as your friend but no children/not married. Having to cut out the people that abused me as a child was the first step towards my healing. And unfortunately, because of the abuse I sustained as a child, it was easy to get drawn into more and more abusive relationships. Then on top of that,as we know, trauma doesn't just affect the neurobiology of children but physical health as well. She is blessed to have a good friend like you
There is some hope, California launched the "Aces Aware" initiative.
And..my hearing was for SSDI/SSI.I was asking for help and I was re-traumatized.