I too have had the experience where providing ACEs training caused much distress in my audience. So, I no longer provide ACE training without also providing resilience training.
I usually do this by making a comparison between ACEs and car safety.... when I was young, there weren't seatbelts, let alone carseats and boosters and people in my generation survived. Now we have a lot more information, we 'know better' and we put kids in carseats and boosters and they're surviving better (safer, less deaths, less significant injuries) than before. With ACEs, just like with car accidents, we can't ever stop them all, but researchers are learning that there are things we can put in place, like seatbelts/restraints to decrease the detrimental impact of ACEs.
Hope that's helpful.