For myself being a "victim" as a child. I know the effects it has and had on my life. The choices I made to mask the pain and the people I hurt to feel in control, came from not feeling safe and protected. Betrayed in other words, I felt it was something I asked for. Until there are laws put into place that let childern or adults feel safe, people will try to protect them self, try to hurt others, do drugs, drink, break the law etc..... because they were never showen as a child how to cope or that the law will protect them against all who are at fault. So if an adult tries to help others because they "survived" it don't mean they are able to. They still are crying out for help. Most hurt people want to help because it helps them. Just like people that have known hunger, want to feed others. But dont NOTHING is going to change until we say thats ENOUGH. People who harm childern, regradless of why or what they went through need to be held accoutable. Rapest, child molestors,abusers, murders etc, should not ever be able to hurt another person. If there is a disease spreading you don't try to put a bandaid on it and hope it heals. You cut it off, to save the rest of the body. I am a mother and I have seen the effects my poor me, excuses have on my childern. I dont blame no one, what is done is done. I cant cry about it. I can only make sure I raise good childern and protect them with my life. They will only see a strong mother. Not a "victim".