I respect van der Kolk and Judith Herman's destigmatizing of borderline personality disorder- which was, and still is, over-diagnosed in especially women who have significant trauma histories. His contention that CBT (with 30-plus varieties) is ineffective in ludicrous. He engages in cherry-picking of research (what is known to people like myself, with years of training as a scientist-practitioner knows as "confirmation bias"). I could go into a lot more, but there is ongoing litigation and as a person from a family full of attorneys, I'm not going into any details on their advice. I've never said van der Kolk made no contributions. I'm saying a New York Time's bestseller does not meet the rigors of science. I wlth stating that I was socialized with the value that the custodian deserves as much respect as a Nobel winning scientist. How we treat others is a great indicator of the contents of our soul. van der Kolk's contention that the relational aspects of therapy are insignificant says more about him, than the reams of extant research to the contrary.