Being Trauma Informed is supposed to hold prominent avoidance of re-traumatizing. There is nothing more discouraging and retraumatizing in my mind than trying your hardest, giving it everything you've got to recover, trusting the "experts" only to finally realize that the "experts" don't really know all that much and to come to know what you have been given as "therapy" doesn't have a snowball's chance of helping you. In fact, it made you a lot worse. Too many innocent lives lost for me. Too many kids that are doing what they can to recover and be productive in society being led down a path that isn't helping them. It should not be this way and it doesn't have to be except that we have given up on everything that makes us human, our ability to empathize and take perspective and to have integrity and be honest with each other but tactful, we have given all this up for far too long and it is going to take lifetimes to ever find our way back I think. I wish everyone in society understood how a baby develops in context of close relationship with the mother and then others in a socially structured, society. Most of us have no idea how babies or personalities develop in context of relationship, for good or for bad. I didn't really know until 10 months ago ---- after reading almost 200 books about infant development and personality formation and object relations and even psychodynamic psychotherapy, I didn't understand until I stumbled across concepts of dissociation, implicit memory and disorganized infant attachment. When all the dust settles a couple centuries from now and we all finally decide we want to live in a non-violent world, babies have to be cared for properly.
Couple articles on Resilience:
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.co...ll/10.1002/wps.20729
https://ruthfeldmanlab.com/wp-...D-Monograph-2012.pdf
Infant frontal EEG asymmetry in relation with postnatal maternal depression and parenting behavior -- (The baby's brainwaves develop around the relational input it receives).