I appreciate your engagement. As you have chosen to give yourself latitude to look at the "nooks and crannies" of identity and privilege, I too had to and continue to do the same. To me it is a cornerstone of owning my identity and how I show up in the world. It is surprising, often times isolating and increasingly openly appreciated. The most important part about this discovery and recovery is that how I show up now is real both in terms of history and my values and my vision. My actions are now congruent with and honest to my lived experience.
As a follow up, I wonder what you mean by the statement "...or accused by someone who has trouble sorting out the role their own internal oppression in a conflict." What does that look like? Feel free to message me directly if preferred.