With parenting from a mother who is high in NPD traits would the adult child (without access to early memories) who displays attachment or avoidance issues automatically predispose one to believe there’s been poor bonding from a stressed mother? In the book Daughter Detox, the author sites a number of studies done on this beyond the Still Face.... an interesting study was how a father would have no chance at countering the effects from the mother. I’m reading it as part of a road map out of the nightmare from such parenting but hope this helps to quickly find the 4-5 study authors cited in the book I mentioned.
Based upon my experience, it’s a frightening thought (hellish nightmare, literally and figuratively) to even think about the mother I know and grew up with (controlling, anxious, know it all who would not ask for guidance, and no idea about a baby as anything more than a chore to do properly) and thus re-gaining a true identity, etc. I remember seeing her face and manner as she held my brother’s kids and it wasn’t cold but lacked that intimate joyful expression...like one holds a Turkey as you carefully carry it from the store.?? Resilience and other cognitive therapy can help but I agree with the above statement that the ACEs questionnaire isn’t able to assess this aspect...one can only assume it when the victim becomes fully knowledgeable about the mothering, which may be difficult as victim will have formulated with extreme intelligence and outside manipulation that it is ultimately her fault that her life has known only pain and struggle. Then, every Dr., Psych person will have diagnosed her and have little idea about the above abuse as it mascarades through healthcare. At 50, when all dots connect, it’s sickening to accept
sorry to hijack but Daughter Detox cites authors of studies early in book