My work here in Chattanooga took on a strange and not expected pathway. My work with adult women and men confess to the group the horror of abuse but behaviors sexually counteract the shame.. Of late, attempting to start an online men's group my work there has found the same behaviors... One young guy described in great detail his abuse from an older man and in time how much he enjoyed sexually with this older man. In several conversations with him via the telephone you could feel his excitement sharing stories . Shame, supposed guardian seems to get abandoned with the reality that sex is fun and feels good.. Wish I could engage a conversation with someone in the organization about proceeding with goals of starting groups locally?
Seems that others, like myself, do not know answers to my piece written earlier. My experiences with starting groups of survivors all seem to end in the same place. Yes, sexual abuse was awful but sex itself is so much fun and further, forget the shame of childhood abuse.. There must be someone or some group in this network that can facilitate a response to my query.. Maybe it is not possible to find that inner peace . Sexual abuse is common. Maybe an innocent interlude between the same sexes and how much fun. Is that abuse. My mother chose me as her surrogate; that is abuse but??