Hello Dr. Nicole,
I would like to offer you 4 tools/exercises to test out and see if they help. ( ACEs IMMUNITY ) I have been on this site for a few months and have not really seen any mention of actually healing ACEs and trauma. It seems like a basic goal to me even if it is a placebo, knowing healing can happen is a good thing. Lots has been done with the polyvagal theory of unfinished fight or flight reaction to stress and abuse. My first exercise is for finishing this fight or flight or "play dead" reaction that is stuck in our autonomic nervous system. I call it Finding Your Lion Heart. It is presented as an acting exercise to keep it one step away from your actual memories. All CHM is outer-directed and we are the victim. This is inner-directed and we are always the victor. As our wounding is a form of state-bound learning and imprinting we must get close to that original state to reverse and finish the F or F event with a different outcome. ( all imaginary like a video game ) But our body reacts as if it was real plus we are in control. This is the reverse of being out of control. The second exercise is a high quality powerful connected breathing meditation. How to walk your head and mind down to your heart and be in your heart. At the end when your heart is open you put what you love in your heart. In the first process at the end you destroy worlds. The world of pain and the world of abuse and the world of neglect and so on. These worlds give you a world view and move your life to be always ready for F or F. So stay stuck in the original adverse set of experiences. The third process is polarity flip flops. This goes directly to your body and trains your mind to feel the effects of each poll. Our trauma is held in our body subconsciously in the same place as how we walk. Over time this exercise trains your body to recognize polarity and be able to move to the opposite with ease. Fear is a poll with an opposite. Stress is the same and on it goes with all subconscious unwanted behavior is really a single habit or reaching for only one poll. And the last process is talking to the parts of self. This is also key and core to all our relationship outside our skin. Parents kids lovers and business are all modeled on our inner relationships with the parts of self. Think with this process you can increase your self-love 400% and intelligent decisions by 400% plus do all kinds of trust-building and conflict resolutions.
The first 4 videos are the ACEs IMMUNITY process. The others are some few videos on why this works.
To be effective with Finding your Lion Heart then this video is good also.
Forgive You and only YOU.
Best of luck