Sheri, Monica, Cissy, Diane, Brenda, and Laura -
This is a fabulous thread. Thank you all for what you have posted. This is part of the reason I love ACEs Connection so much: there is so much support, experience, strength, and hope here. We share from our hearts and our minds.
EMDR was helpful for me in Trauma recovery and being retriggered in a failing marriage. I am hoping to experience neurofeedback soon. In the meantime, EFT, regular exercise, journaling, and staying checked in with supportive sponsors in a couple of 12-step programs have helped. While it may not be for everyone, 12-step offers free support and it is amazing to me the number of mental health professionals who join in as members seeking support. We are all the same; we all learn from each other. The list of 12–step groups is long! Al-Anon, Overeaters Anonymous, AA, Debtors Anonymous, Co-Dependents Anonymous, are among the many different offerings. The meeting times are varied. And these days (it’s been this way for many years now) one can find an online group and call in to meetings. That is truly anonymous! These groups may not be for everyone. You “take what you like and leave the rest.” But they do help people know they are not alone, which is key. And they are free, though a small donation is encouraged but not required. (People usually donate $1 for a meeting; one can send a check once a month or just donate at an in-person meeting, if possible. “You are more important than your money,” so groups never want a donation to prevent someone from coming.) Call-in meetings we’re a great option for this busy single mom, as I often “went to a meeting” while walking, folding laundry, or doing light housekeeping. I didn’t always/don’t always multi-task, but it is a great option in a pinch. And just hearing another person who has been in the “same place” talk about being in a better place now, and share how they got there, is supportive. Having a sense of belonging sometimes goes a long way in helping one make a shift. I believe it was good, too, that my children had the experience of knowing their mom was not afraid to ask for — and give — support. Again, everyone is different. It is good to know there is a time-flexible and free, or low-cost, option.