ACES generally start with a man beating or raping a woman or child. No boy grows up to say "One day I will be big and strong and will use that strength to hurt other people... especially those people who love me". Right? That is not an aspiration for anyone.
So what is the sequence that results in this person hurting others? What drives that? Anger / annoyance that their family doesn't appreciate them?
An act to overcome a feeling of powerlessness?
I don't understand. Can someone explain this to me please?